tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722388181450585313.post3665588782215371324..comments2023-04-06T06:43:48.913-04:00Comments on Mittens Writes: Bully for youLaura Hughes, MittensMorgulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00934132671168843593noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722388181450585313.post-2384451224084192562013-02-22T13:52:41.134-05:002013-02-22T13:52:41.134-05:00Looking back at my own childhood, it's kind of...Looking back at my own childhood, it's kind of amazing how many times I was bullied without ever thinking of it as bullying. And I got off easy compared to many.<br /><br />I'd hoped all the recent rule changes might have changed things for the better, but if a kid as swag as that can still be bullied... :)<br /><br />But seriously, I hope you and Lulu and Curtains and everyone else involved gets through this and is stronger for it (not to mention nicer to each other).Nate Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09690171790664252309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722388181450585313.post-61504410748037024102013-02-21T15:14:40.486-05:002013-02-21T15:14:40.486-05:00As a teacher, I hate how much I can miss going on ...As a teacher, I hate how much I can miss going on in my own classroom. I am quite sure I have not always done what I should/could, but I am glad for the times when I have.<br /><br />Knowledge is power indeed. I worry about this kind of thing all of the time with my own kids. As they get older, we are always trying to arm them with the new strategies. What worked in 3rd grade won't work anymore at 7th. Ultimately, I have always tried to emphasized with my kids that if nothing else, just telling us about things makes it better - easier. Letting it out is one less burden in the knapsack. Of course, we then can come up with strategies, but I feel like sometimes the "I'm all on my own" hurdle must be jumped first.<br /><br />I'm not surprised about the academic connection. Stress can impact performance in all kinds of ways.<br /><br />From everything I've heard about Lulu, I know she's strong and resilient - just as you've modeled for her and taught her to be.ProfeJMarie (Janet Rundquist)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10170953918491663287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722388181450585313.post-42311281730837891162013-02-21T09:25:24.918-05:002013-02-21T09:25:24.918-05:00I have a feeling that's all part of it. Stupid...I have a feeling that's all part of it. Stupid hormones. Middle school is like that. It's something we all go through, and even the most popular, coolest kids are still insecure and have the same need for reassurance and acceptance as everyone else.<br /><br />Things just get out of control really fast sometimes, and before they know it, everyone has hurt feelings, and not enough social savvy to find a solution.<br /><br />I think the main reason she's let her grades slip is the same reason they haven't been able to work out their little differences: An abundance of hormones combined with a lack of proper preparation. At least know I know. Knowledge is power. :)<br />Laura Hughes, MittensMorgulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934132671168843593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722388181450585313.post-67545609646353063172013-02-21T09:06:31.063-05:002013-02-21T09:06:31.063-05:00I'm sorry you and Lulu are going through this,...I'm sorry you and Lulu are going through this, even if the situation is even sided. That doesn't make it easier. <br />I know you said you can't really blame the school, but you can. haha You and the other child's parents should have been informed of a situation and called in for conferences. There is no reason that it should have gone on this long. <br />Dealing with this age group so much, I fear the number one thing to blame is something we can do nothing about - hormones. <br />My biggest question is, and something maybe to think, is why is she letting her grades slip? Is it to get out of honors class so she's not with these jackasses anymore? Is it the teacher? Is it really because this kid bothers her so much she can't focus? <br />But since you did two sides, so will I. Sometimes teachers don't know how to deal with a group of advanced students when they have 'regular' class the rest of the day and sometimes they allow things to go on that they wouldn't in other classrooms. <br />If you have a group of smart, elevated kids, the first thought may be, let them work it out whereas in a normal classroom, you have to nip it in the bud. I'm not saying it's wrong or right, and my personal opinion is rules are rules and teaching is teaching, but I know a lot of teachers who take this approach. <br />I hope there's an easy resolution and that everyone comes out a little stronger and wiser. <br />having said all of those things, the boy probably likes her and doesn't know how to deal with her rejection besides lashing out. 13YO boys are hormone laden idiots. (I know several I adore, but that's what it boils down to) The other girls probably like him and jump on his bandwagon to get a look from his dreamy eyes. :) <br />That doesn't excuse it, but it may be part of the reason. AngiNicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376422152656766418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722388181450585313.post-25362658195949437092013-02-21T08:33:39.376-05:002013-02-21T08:33:39.376-05:00Yeah, but now that I know the full story, I can...Yeah, but now that I know the full story, I can't really blame the school. :/Laura Hughes, MittensMorgulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934132671168843593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722388181450585313.post-4025301140316539962013-02-21T08:33:09.290-05:002013-02-21T08:33:09.290-05:00Thanks. I just wish she'd said something soone...Thanks. I just wish she'd said something sooner.Laura Hughes, MittensMorgulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934132671168843593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722388181450585313.post-53838802024024290462013-02-20T20:45:36.706-05:002013-02-20T20:45:36.706-05:00Ugh. ((((hugs))))
That helpless feeling is the wo...Ugh. ((((hugs))))<br /><br />That helpless feeling is the worst. Sometimes, though, even after all the confidence boosters and bully education, there's nothing you can do to counter the insecurity that comes along with puberty. <br /><br />Hang in there, Mama. You're doing all you can and it sounds like Lulu has a strong foundation.<br /><br />But do be sure to give the school hell for me, because I tell ya, I'd like to have a word or two with that English teacher.Delia Moranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01957513773943040065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722388181450585313.post-28626821079906327912013-02-20T18:20:17.779-05:002013-02-20T18:20:17.779-05:00This sounds like the school is the weak link.
Te...This sounds like the school is the weak link. <br /><br />Teachers aren't blind - SOMEONE had to have seen this happening. <br /><br />Sometimes teachers don't know what to do, or even want to bother until the wheel starts squeaking. <br /><br />Lulu sounds like a quiet wheel, trudging along through the bullshit that this kid and his ilk set before her. <br /><br />I applaud her strength, and *hugs* to you. The good news is she finally told you. It took way too long, but she told you. <br /><br />Dialogue is open. Now something can be done about this. Feaky Snuckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17481513779668517971noreply@blogger.com